Abuse and Control: Recognising the Signs

Abuse can affect anyone—regardless of age, gender, ethnicity, sexual orientation, or background. It’s not always visible and often starts subtly. One of the clearest signs is when you begin to change your behaviour out of fear of how someone might react.

You are not to blame. Abuse is never your fault.

Does This Sound Familiar?

• Jealous or possessive behaviour that feels suffocating

• A partner who is warm one moment and aggressive the next

• Being told what to wear, where you can go, or who you’re “allowed” to see

• Constant criticism that leaves you feeling small or unsure

• Doubting your own judgement or struggling to make decisions

• No control over your own finances

• Being coerced into sex against your will

• Walking on eggshells to avoid conflict or fear

These experiences are often part of a cycle of abuse that escalates over time. You may find yourself losing parts of your identity, chasing love or approval, and carrying guilt and shame that was never yours to begin with.

Feeling Trapped or Helpless?

Even when trust has been betrayed repeatedly or you feel emotionally harmed, leaving can feel impossible. You might feel isolated, confused, or blamed—especially when manipulation, gaslighting, or triangulation with others is involved.

You are not alone.

How Counselling Can Help

Counselling for abuse provides a safe, confidential, and non-judgemental space where you can begin to make sense of what you’ve been through. Together, we can work on:

• Understanding the cycle of abuse

• Rebuilding self-worth and self-trust

• Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries

• Exploring your feelings without fear of judgement

• Regaining your sense of identity and control

I’m here to support you with compassion and care as you navigate your next steps. Healing is possible—and you don’t have to do it alone.